SIAM, you hit the bullseye with this one. There are aspects of the org a woman will never experience, NEVER. She can only hear and talk about it, perhaps because of what her husband relayed to her.
While that has softened my wife's stance towards my feelings, she still feels this is the truth and is struggling to do the "right thing".
Anything I've said to her about my experiences has brought her to think, and often agree, but not enough to cause her to leave "the truth".
I can only be hopeful for the future. At least my wife is pretty laid back, which has made it better for me.
Either way, thanks for a great thread.
CoC